A Journey Back to Me

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Karre Brown is from Long Island, NY and is the owner of  K’marie Hair Company. Karre has realized that she is flawed due to her depression, PTSD and anxiety. She has always had depression, but she was not diagnosed until 2015. She allowed the abuses of her past to convince her that she was not worthy of living.

These are her flaws because they hinder her from being her best self. Karre’s anxiety keeps her from participating in lots of life’s activities. Her depression keeps her in bed and also causes her to eat her into sickness. Her PTSD causes her to be in a room with other people and feel totally disconnected.

Karre does not know if she has completely accepted her flaws, but she have accepted God and God has given her the comfort to face each flaw that she has.

Karre’s Advice

Stand Still! When life feels like it’s falling apart, allow it to fall apart. Do nothing. Sometimes God has a way of sitting us down so that we can be still & hear him. There’s to much chaos & confusion trying to be a bulldozer. Let God open you up & doors will open for you.

Instagram: @kmariehaircompany , and @ajourneybacktome

 

 

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Sis… you’re not always right!

unnamed-1.jpgKandis Nickole Isom is from Indianapolis IN! She is recently married and now residing in Chicago IL. She graduated with an undergrad from Ball State University with a major in Fashion Merchandising then set her heart on something more in the city of New York. She went for her graduates degree and graduated with a major in Fashion Marketing from LIM College. Fast forwarding to present day, she lives in Chicago and is currently the team leader for Topshop Topman. She also enjoys bloggings *obvi* lol, thrifting, creating, networking and eating ice cream… tons of it lol.

Kandis’ biggest flaw would have to be realizing that she is not always right! A person that would think this, isn’t open to growth or learning stunts their growth.

This is her flaw because she thinks she is opinionated. This is so weird because she loves people, talking to people and networking with people. But for some reason she has always prove that she is right in anything! It can be the smallest of things lol…  It can just goes back to her winning spirit. unnamed-3She was in the color guard and a competitive dancer growing up a
nd winning wasn’t an option. It had to be done. It has now transpired into her real actual life. It’s a great thing to have a winning spirit, but she was using this tool in a negative way.

Well she has realized it she would say. It wasn’t until college that she was very naive and not very in tune with herself. She didn’t recognize how she was coming across to other people. It wasn’t until she met her boyfriend who is now her husband and he told me straight up “you’re a know it all” . She said what!!? Whatever lol. Not long after that another friend told her Kandis you just can’t accept being wrong can you? Her friend said it jokingly, but he was serious. It was becoming a pattern… Post graduation from undergrad she dropped her “know it all” “I’m always right” mentality. Kandis became more open and able to receive even more information that she could store in her piggy bank and then spend it when the time came. She would pause and actually listen to people and ask them questions. It was beauty to actually learn!

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Kandis’ Advice

Be open! There is soooooo much to learn. Always remember even when you are 1000 years old lol… you’re never too old to stop learning. Even if you have all the degrees you can always be open to receiving new insights when networking with different people. You know no ones story. Be open to them. And listen.

IG: @kandyreign

Website: https://kandyreign.wixsite.com/kandyreign

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Diming the light to let others shine.

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Nichole , a HBCU Grad (B.S Accounting) from Maryland, has a flaw of diming her light to allow others to shine.

Letter from Nichole :

“Some say I’m modest and/or humble when I do not boast about my accomplishments. Some say I come off as “shy” “bashful” or “average” because I keep my accomplishments to myself. In today’s society, in order to be (or appear) “successful” you have to be extremely confident and willing to show your abilities to rise to the top (fast). You have to be flashy and somewhat of a braggart. People have to want to be you (example: The Kardasians, Beyonce and Instagram famous folks). I am not this person. I’m more reserved and laid back. I like to keep quiet about my accomplishments due to the fear that it could all be taken away. Just think about it. When a someone that who lives a lavish lifesytle or a celebrity goes bankrupt and or lose their home, the first thing people say is ” They should have lived below his/her means.” or “He/she shouldn’t have brought that big ole house.” blah blah blah. Who wants to deal with that negativity when you’re going through trials. Often, I’ve discussed many topics with my peers including where they’ve vacationed, their new home, job, promotion or the amount of education they have and not once do I mentioned what I’ve done. I’ll say “That sounds nice.” or “Good for you.” Diming my light 100%. I let the individual have their moment all to themselves and they’ve always taken that moment and ran with it. Truthfully, most people do not know much about me due to my reserved demeanor. This can come off as a flaw because it “appears” that I’m not doing much or that I’m not confident to speak up when the truth is that, I’m scared of losing it all and hearing the “I told you so” that many people would love to say. I just believe that a private life is a happy life. The less people know, the better off you’ll be. Now, please don’t get it twisted, I am far from perfect, I am no where near wealthy , rich or do I have it all together but I will say as a 27 year old, I am very blessed. As I mature, I’m learning that it’s ok, to let your light shine bright. As long as the goal is to inspire and not make others jealous and envious. The goal is to always motivate others through my success. How can you motivate others, when they don’t know who you are? Lessons that turned into blessing. Living and learning”.
Nichole has accepted her flaws. Prayer is key! She prays and meditates a lot (mostly in private). She asks God to keep her grounded and to use her success to motivate others. BBF’s #AFlawedStory gave Nichole a platform to discuss her issues with hopes that it will help other young women who might have the same issues.

Advice from Nichole, ” Love yourself. Know your worth. Forget the naysayers. They really don’t matter”.

Instagram : @diplomaticbrowngirl

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The Holistic Lioness

 

IMG_8021-2.JPGKeisha Faulkner, who lives in Philadelphia, is the Cofounder + CEO of The Holistic Lioness & Co. a catalyst for holistic wellness ideas, programs, and community engagement for millennial women of color.

Just like all of us, she has a flaw whereshe over thinks herself to the point of anxiety. She has Type A qualities. She feels the need to be in control of everything that goes on in her life. Keisha has acknowledged this and is focusing on ways to reduce anxiety and stress. These ways include, daily prayer, essential oils, and MEDITATION!

From her flaw, she has taken part in The Holistic Lioness & Co. to help of women of color fight similar flaws to her. The Holistic Lioness is catalyst for health and wellness ideas, programs and community engagement for millennial women of color. Their mission is to enhance life-balance in the areas of mental, physical, and spiritual health and wellness for the millennial woman of color. Their website provides advice about how women of color can be unafraid to admit that they are beautiful with all their flaws (Kiesha Faulkner). The Holistic Lioness is also hosting their first ever Health and Wellness retreat. The retreat is about seeking stronger emotional, physical & spiritual balance, internal peace, and a greater since of vitality.

“Life is too short. God is ultimately in control. Find ways to help you relax in the present moment” (Kiesha Faulkner).

It is amazing when you impact others, but it is more amazing when you see women older then you trying to accomplish the same thing. Thank you for reaching out to me and it was greating partnering with you and featuring you on our blog.

Make sure you visit their website to learn more about The Holistic Lioness and their retreat.

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Don’t Give Your Trust to just Anyone

 

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Aniesha is a poet, a blogger and an author. She is a single mom of 2 amazing little girls and she is also a survivor of domestic violence.

Her flaw was trusting in many who were unworthy of her trust. She was hurt by many and allowed people to do and say things to her that were completely unacceptable. She loves herself now. Aniesha is not afraid to remove people who hinder her growth, abuse her trust or who take her for granted.

Advice from Aniesha, “Self-love is the best love and if you don’t love yourself you can’t expect anyone else to”.

Instagram: @aniesha_Braswell

Website for her poetry, blog and podcast.

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Trying to Figure out ME

 

Guest Writer for AugustAlexandra Vanegas, a 30 year old single om lives just outside of Boston, finds that she focus on the negatives when she is asked to talk about herself and she does not understand why.  Solana, her daughter, is 10 and Alexandra gave birth to her when she was 19, just four days before her 20th birthday. She have a BS in Human Services and her professional experience is in Nonprofit Development and Fundraising. Alexandra will love to go on a shorter “Wild” solo hike, but she is not a fan of bugs, so that probably won’t happen. She is obsessed with knowledge and craves information. Just a few weeks back she bought 23 books from GoodWill! She hasn’t read one yet – whoops! She enjoys drawing outside the lines and carving her own path forward. Alexandra enjoys making people laugh and thinks she’s pretty hilarious. She is also a walking karaoke machine and loves to bust out in song (and dance) any chance she can. She also owns a lifestyle and parenting blog. She is a born connector and storyteller and enjoys using her vulnerabilities to create authentic relationships with diverse people. Passion seeps out of her pores. Dedicated to empowering single parents and helping disadvantaged populations. A fact about Alexandra, “If you ever visit Zimbabwe you’ll find a library named after me. Seriously!”.

Flaws. She knows she has a ton of them. She finds herself to be incredibly skilled at bullying herself and standing in her own way of happiness and success. She doesn’t think she is good at anything or have any skills, which is a little because her blog proves that she is an amazing woman. She says her body is a disaster. Her OCD makes her pull out her eyebrows. She walks around daily with a guard up because she has been hurt over and over, beginning with family as a child.  She has a feeling of vomiting when someone gives me a compliment.

Because her flaws stunt her growth. “Imagine the power if we lived as if life was rigged in our favor. If we were able to take a step back and appreciate the challenges in our lives as moments of progression”.  Alexandra feels by always being anxious and having self-doubt she is limiting her to how she interacts with others, how she parents her daughter and how she treats herself. It makes her feel like she’s stuck deep in a hole without the fight left to climb out.

Alexandra accepted her flaws for most of her life and is quite sure she was born broken. Last fall she broke down and took a month off of work to try to find HER and spent time with HER and be with HER. Slowly after that time she has begun to be more at ease with her vulnerabilities, choosing not to hide them anymore. She owns her story and it’s one that is messy and sad and challenging and joyous.

From a busy commute on the train at work, to a bustling office to friends and strangers online it’s hard to feel truly alone. But she still does. More than that she feels empty, sick and tired of being so damn sick and so damn tired. Part of being vulnerable has not only been sharing her story, but keeping her heart open to others stories and supporting and encouraging them. Because we are all fighting battles, just some of us are better at hiding it than others. We have to share and share again and again.

Advice from Alexandra, “Dear Beautiful Soul: Do you know how amazing you are? Before you try to cut me off please just listen and allow yourself to be present in this very moment. So often we are moving so fast, juggling families and work and friends that it’s hard to take a step back and breathe. I know at times your struggle feels like it’s going to suffocate you, that no matter how hard you’re fighting to stay afloat the waves keep crashing on top of you and the shore feels farther and farther away. I know because I have been there and I almost didn’t make it. It took six days of being hospitalized for me to begin the journey of accepting and celebrating myself. Don’t wait until you’re at the edge to make a change. It’s going to be hard. It’s going to feel impossible. You are going to want to give up. But can you for a second imagine if you didn’t? If you used those hurdles as stepping stones to something greater? It is possible, only once you give yourself a break. It’s going to be tough, but it will be worth it. We can get through this together. You are not alone”.

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My Heart is BIGGER than my Height.

Screen Shot 2016-07-06 at 10.48.07 AM.pngCynthia Ignatius, who is from Kerala, India, went to Indian’s National School in Addis Ababa. She loves reading and writing.

Her flaws our her height and imperfect skin ( which as you can see in the photo her skin is actually flawless to me ). She is shorter than other and her skin can be a struggle sometimes to her. Cynthia believes that you height shouldn’t matter because the love she gives come from the heart. Cynthia feels like once you accept yourself people being to respect and accept you as well. Having imperfect skin means your just another creation with a different mould. Accepting your flaw will bring harmony to you because others won’t care.

Advice from Cynthia,”Nothing is permanent not the face you have nor the skin. If your made that way it is because your are beautiful that way. As long as you accept it and be happy about it people will accept you.”

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