Being cheated on might be the worst feeling ever when you have been completely faithful to someone you have loved dearly.Everyone has their own definition of cheating. It can be physical, mental or emotional. It can vary from flirting , personally texting or calling or engaging in specific contact with others. Sometimes in a relationship, partners do not make it clear from the start what the rules . One partner may see that texting someone else is not a problem while their significant other thinks it is.
As young women, we tend to hurt after being cheated on. We feel as though our world is ending and we will never get through the pain.We never fully take the time to properly heal or to ask others to help us through the process. We sometimes tend to be fearful of what others will say about us. It is very important to heal properly or have an understanding of healing. We tend to walk away or to stay in the relationship with a mindset that we are not good enough.
Everyone has their own method of healing. You may go through a period of depression or you might bounce right back into the game and dust your shoulders off. Some may accept it and stay. Some feel their female intuition and call their parter out. Some people like to ask their partner certain question on why cheated and get apology for them to heal while some people do not want closure or an apology because the closure may not make a difference to them. This does not only apply to being cheated on this can also apply for break ups. Do not ever compare your process to someone else’s because we all handle things differently.
The Healing (s) to the Process :
” First time I got cheated on I separated myself from the guy. After a year of no contact, I was perfectly fine. The second time around, my healing process was different. I stood. I denied. I was angry, sad and hurt. I would comprised myself and worth.I cried a lot.I talked to other people to try to help me move on. NOTHING. I felt like it was myfault because I wasn’t doing enough. I still went back. There was something in me that finally said ‘ WAKE UP’ and forgive but not to forget and to focus on myself. I would definitely say that the healing process helped me grow. It helped me grow in the aspect to not allow anyone to play me and most importantly to have self love”.
“I had a best friend who I would vent to and fortunately he never got tired of me . I also cried A LOT bc I knew that nothing else would help me release my anger and sadness”.
“I feel like time heals wounds . That’s the only way to get over get cheated on”.
“I haven’t been cheated on well at least not that I know of. However, I’ve been in a situation where I thought me & this boy was going to finally be official (two years of talkin) but I found out (not by him) he was in a relationship with a girl that was younger than me. I say that to say the fact that this was the situation AND she was younger than me made me question “why not me, what she have I don’t” and other stupid stuff. I was hurt to the core – I developed insecurities that I didn’t even have before & even tho I’m still recovering for the emotional damage I’m proud to say I’m starting to love myself more. I was able to move on & love myself more by talking to someone like my mom, who I know is wise, being around positive energy so I won’t start thinkin, talking to myself in the mirror saying “I am enough” & just finally accepting nothing was wrong with me – he just wasn’t ready to give me the love I was giving him. It’s a process but worth it when u truly know u deserve better”.
When that healing process is over & you have figure everything out you just begin to Feel Yourself.
Blessings do not come from ugliness.
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